Social Panoramas: Changing the Unconscious Landscape with NLP and Psychotherapy($34.34Value)

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Why am I unhappy with my social life? How can I improve my relationships? Why do I feel bullied and intimidated? The answers to all these questions are to be found in your social panorama. Social Panoramas reveals the unconscious landscape of images and people that surrounds each of us. It helps us to sense the location of significant others within our mental space, teaches us to reshape our inner worlds and guides us towards the successful recreation of our perspectives on others and ourselves. By reading this book, your unique social panorama will become clear to you, leading to more confidence, greater self-esteem and dramatic improvements in your relationships with others. Social Panoramas offers coaches, therapists and counsellors a wide range of new tools and methods to solve clients' relationship issues with a simplicity and precision previously unknown. ; Why am I unhappy with my social life? How can I improve my relationships? Why do I feel bullied and intimidated? The answers to all these questions are to be found in your social panorama. Social Panoramas reveals the unconscious landscape of images and people that surrounds each of us. It helps us to sense the The Panoramic Mind Modeling Your Social World Defining NLP as athe study of the structure of subjective experience', presupposes that people somehow organise their experiences and end up with a amodel of the world'. Bandler & Grinder (1975: 13) say that: a when people come to us in therapy, they typically come with pain, feeling themselves paralyzed, experiencing no choices or freedom of action in their lives. a these people block themselves from seeing those options and possibilities that are open to them since they are not available in their models of their world. The aim of therapy is to expand such limited models of the world in ways that help people get what they want. I have long been curious about how amodels of the world' are created, how they are organised, and how universally true they are. The term amodel of the world' is a useful shorthand, but finding a general definition is not easy. NLP books rarely define the term. So observe how your mind constructs your model of the world. I'll do this for a moment: When I shut my eyes it's dark, like a room with the curtains drawn. Oh. My inner world has just become a darkened room, thick velvet curtains. If I pull them back to let some light in a Well, now I've created a particular window frame, and with lace curtains either side. The windows need cleaning a. aWhat's it like in there?a I can only think in term of metaphors. As soon as I think, athe mind is like a rooma, it becomes a room. Think, afiling cabinet' and sure enough my mind is a filing cabinet, full of memories stored in manilla folders a As soon as I think of mind as the vastness of outer space, I am surrounded by darkness and points of light. Was it like that for you? Did you find that you have this amazing ability to see the room, the window, the filing cabinet ...? But it happens too quickly; there is no way we can know how this happens. Mind is incredibly accommodating and flexible. In attempting to describe mind, it instantly becomes whatever you think it might be a it fulfils the expectations of your words. When asked, awhat's it like in there?' anything will do. As soon as someone else starts telling you about their reality, you create your version of that. But then it seems real, that it has always been like that, even though you just made it up! Mind is open, and in terms of what it is and how it does things, mind is unknowable. We can only talk in metaphors. And although some mental environments acquire a sense of continuity a a landscape, a library, outer space a the specific instances continually change. So instead of thinking that a model of the world has to be a particular way, just let it be whatever you want. You find out if your model -of the world serves you when you play with it, in the same way you would play with toys or computer games. This is how you discover their potential. Actually, you have been acquiring models all your life. If you have studied NLP or another discipline, you will have absorbed many models of reality which other people have found useful for bringing about change. You may have enjoyed exploring atime-lines' or aperceptual positions'. Each model offers possibilities; none are the atruth'. However, should you find people claiming that they are describing the essence of mind, remember it is just a model they have made up. Acknowledge their enthusiasm, remember that atruth' is forever evolving, and choose to be curious, to go exploring, as every new model may offer great wisdom and understanding. Models of Relationships The history of psychology contains numerous ways of modeling human relationships. In the 1930s, Jacob Moreno invented the asociogram' as a way of mapping how people interact and communicate within groups. The group was represented spatially as a diagram in